Thursday, July 17, 2008

So that's the key

I never thought my water-allergic child would beg to take a shower, but after an hour of fencing on the upper floor of a converted warehouse on a hot July evening while wearing a chest protector, a canvas jacket and a padded mesh mask? She was all over it. I think that's the most I've ever seen her sweat in her life until now.


Kris said...

Thank you for your comments on my blog, Vanessa. My dd's cardiologist appt. was okay. She has to wear an event monitor for 4 weeks and go back to see him in 3 months, but I think it's all just precautionary, based on what he's said so far.

I've enjoyed poking around your blog. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I've enjoyed reading your candid posts about him and your life together. It's obvious that you shared an amazing love with him. I agree with you...that's nothing to be in a hurry to "move on" from.

Pixilated Mum said...

Hey ... What's Kris doing up there on the comments?

*waves hello*

This post made me laugh. But the previous one made me think. Your blog is so like that ... and you're right, girl. I don't know WHY people are trying to hurry anyone along in the grieving process. Part of it must be that we're just used to trying to gloss over everything and to not think about such matters as mortality or loss or anything that is not rainbow-sparkly happy.

And I also think people just are totally clueless about what suffering means to that individual. I'm sure some people think, "Oh, if she had a new husband, everything would be wonderful and back to normal." (Dude, I'm not saying I think that! You know I don't think that.)

It happens when people miscarry ... "Oh, a new baby would make everything better!" Yes, a new baby is nice, but it doesn't take away hurt and pain.

I'm so sorry that you feel pressured from folks who just aren't getting it. (hugs)

writermeeg said...

go, G! i keep thinking of her alone with the boys in a clump, and it just gets me in the gut. she really is special, and you really are, too.

Shelley said...

I think it could be the age too. Suddenly my G is taking longer showers.

Take her to Bath & Body Works and treat her to the American Girl bath collection.

My G just loves her "spa time" (as she calls it). Hah!