You are a 9-year-old girl with a math assignment. You ask your mother for help. What is the appropriate response when she tries to fulfill your request?
1. Listen to what she has to say, then either apply her suggestions or calmly explain that your teacher showed you a different method in class and you think you should use that instead.
2. Interrupt her with a shriek of "WE'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO DO IT LIKE THAT!" Pull the pencil and paper away from her when she wants to demonstrate. Refuse to let her finish a sentence or to show you any other way of arriving at the answer. When she tells you that it is mathematically impossible for 35 times 5 to equal 350, scream that it HAS to be 350 because that's what Mr. B SAID. Have a fit when she takes a piece of paper out of your binder to use as scratch paper, and when she says "I'm sorry you're upset," snarl, "Apology NOT accepted." Then, when she takes away your computer time for being rude and unkind, say, "I'm sorry for what I said," and then ask "Now can I use the computer?" Express shock when she says no.
I suppose this is payback for all the times my father sat with me at the kitchen table while I cried over my sixth-grade math homework. I can still remember him saying, "If you would just calm down and pay attention, it wouldn't be so hard!"
Sorry, Dad. Can I use the computer now?